“Write hard and clear about what hurts” – Ernest Hemingway
I think that people too often write about things that are easy to write about. It’s easy to write about your loving cat or that wonderful boy or girl who you are so dearly in love with at the time. Writing about what hurts is a whole new animal. I think that it goes without saying that everyone experiences trauma in their life. We all experience death of a loved one, we experience betrayal of a friend, and we experience heart ache in some form or another. It’s not easy to write about what deeply hurts you, though those feelings are the most true and the easiest ones to feel.
When people hurt you it’s easy to think endlessly about that wrong and completely ignore the beautiful things another person has done to you. It’s so easy to think about the painful memories but where does it become difficult to write and share these things? Maybe it’s fear of rejection or the good ole, “Suck it up” we used to get from our parents when they thought our cuts and bruises were mere bumps. The saying never took the pain away, we desperately craved being told that our pain was important and we were strong for enduring such pain.
The things that we need to write about in order to let go of the pain are often the hardest. Writing about depression, loss, and abusive people is not easy nor will it ever be. But it is essential for relief, feeling as though you are being heard is one of the best feelings.
Now I’m going to continuously work on writing about what hurts me, although I feel invincible at times.
~Anna
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